“The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when
someone asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.” ~Henry David
Thoreau
The art of listening to another person (I mean truly
listening) is a something that takes time to develop, but does more for building
relationships than anything else. We
often hear what others are saying, but don’t take the time to truly
listen. Listening and asking questions
related to what people are saying shows others we are interested in them as
whole people, not just for our own interests.
Do you ask your children questions and listen in a way that
shows you are truly interested in what they are saying? Many parents have realized they ask their
children questions about things they (the parents) want to know right away, as opposed to
what interests their children first. Do you
truly need to know the answer to how your child did on the math test as soon as
he/she gets home or can you ask some questions about the parts of the day you
know are interesting to your child and truly listen to the answers? When we ask those questions first, it puts
value on the child as a person and our interest in him or her, not on how the
child does on a test or assignment. When
individuals feel we are interested in them as humans, they feel more
valued.
Stephen Covey wrote, “To truly listen means to transcend
your autobiography, to get out of your own frame of reference, out of your own
value system, out of your own history and judging tendencies, and to get deeply
into the frame of reference or viewpoint of another person.” Try listening to your children and others
around you in a new way. You may find it
strengthens your relationships with them by showing them how you value human being
over human doing.
First Graders are working on their writing. With the weather being so cold, they imagined
what they would do if they were trapped in a snow globe. While living in Minnesota may feel like being
trapped in a snow globe to adults in the winter, students had some creative
ways to escape their globes (and they didn’t involve flying to a warmer
climate). See the pictures below for a
few samples.
Have a wonderful week!
Mrs. Baier